Insight: The Power Of Choice

In the modern world that we live in today, choice is a very powerful tool. People have, and should have, the power to make their own decisions in life. And not be made to feel in any way inferior, uncomfortable, prejudiced or frowned upon because of these decisions. Even a very strong minded person can feel this way at times due to decisions they make, or more importantly the reactions of others around them due to these decisions. As long as you are not harming anyone, your choice belongs to you and is therefore yours to make. There is only one person that is going to walk in your shoes, one person that is going to live the life you choose to lead. You! You are in control of your own destiny!

Of course, this is easier said than done. Because, it matters what our loved ones think and say about us. This is human nature. Just don't let it impact on major decisions. Remember, you don't need family and friends to approve your choices in life, just to respect them. My aunt once said to me “It's none of your business what other people say about you'. I thought that was a genius statement. It isn't any of your business and when you adopt that attitude, by default it doesn't matter what other people say about you. Not everyone is going to like you, that is a fact, but so what?! I'm sure you have many people around you that love you and care about you, we can't please everyone (otherwise we're not pleasing ourselves).

Care about people, be concerned about them, but don't let this quality take over your life. I've known friends who spend so much time being concerned about others, that they forget to be concerned about themselves. And people like this don't often get the same level of attention in return. Don't compromise your life.

Don't let yourself be affected by those around you and what they do, opinions they have and decisions they make. Trust your own instincts and live the life you want to live. If there is someone in your life that is sharing to many negativities with you, this can affect your thinking, without you even realising it, so perhaps you should reduce the amount of time you spend with this person. It's too easy to get drawn into someone else's way of life, especially if you live in a small town with narrow minded opinions that are being projected onto you. Don't listen to other people, listen to yourself, really listen to yourself and be happy. What makes someone else happy won't necessarily make you happy.

So be confident in what you want out of this life, go out and grab it with both hands, stay true to yourself and have fun!